Amy Simmons & Krispin Mayfield

Attachment Theory and a Healthy Spirituality








Therapists Amy Simmons and Krispin Mayfield discuss attachment theory and how it intersects with our spirituality and plays out in our church culture.

The parent-child relationship and our formative years greatly influence how we navigate everything, including our spirituality and faith. Often our theological deconstructions are the fruit of discovering a God with whom we feel loved, secure, and safe; where we move from insecure to secure attachment.



“In the church, we have a lot more powerful metaphors for sin and separation than we do for being loved and accepted. Krispin Mayfield

“The phrase, ‘If you love me then you will,’ is an emotional abuse phrase. But we apply that to our relationship with God all the time. We tell kids that God is emotionally abusive.” Amy Simmons

“Unity is a product of a loving relationship, not the goal. Unity is what happens when we love each other, are safe with each other and treat each other well. Unity is not what God is asking us for, unity is what happens when we do what God is asking us for…” Amy Simmons


Amy Simmons and Krispin Mayfield host the Attached To The Invisible PODCAST
Amy Simmons: Instagram
Krispin Mayfield: Twitter / Website

Podcast intro and outro music by Wilde Assembly

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Brent Lokker
Thomas Floyd is a psychotherapist that loves to chat about the intersectionality of faith and psychology. He passionately pursues the belief that being spiritually mature means also being emotionally mature. He lived in Chile for the first 11 years of his life and now lives with his wife Sarah in North Carolina. He is an enneagram enthusiast, a theology junky, and a sports FANATIC.

Jason Clark is a writer, speaker, and lead communicator at A Family Story ministries. His mission is to encourage sons and daughters to grow sure in the love of an always-good heavenly Father. He and his wife, Karen, live in North Carolina with their three children.


  1. Tineke Ziemer

    This was freaking amazing!!! I did not want this to end!!! Life changing information!

    • Jason Clark

      I agree, this was one of my favorite interviews, so rich. I couldn’t wait to post it!


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