You Can't Abuse Grace








I was hanging out with a friend the other day.

He is in his mid-sixties. He is coming into such a wonderful revelation regarding our Fathers love. Though he has lived much of his life laboring for the harsh master who goes by the name religion, he is beginning to discover an always good and loving Father. This beautiful revelation has entered his life in the form of Grace.

For twenty minutes he spoke excitedly about how miraculously astonishing Grace is. As he talked, I whole-heartedly encouraged and agreed with him. When he told me about the incredible freedom he was discovering through amazing Grace, I laughed with him, reveling in the wonder. When he described how Grace was empowering him to live free from sins that had haunted him his whole life, I grinned and nodded my head and said, “Grace is good like that!”

He was well into praising how Grace was changing the way he saw people when it happened. Suddenly, while describing the most beautiful revelation, and then at absolute odds with what he had been sharing, like a fist to the jaw, he got religious…

In mid-sentence, speaking with more passion and freedom than I had encountered in my 18 years of knowing the man, he blurted, “But I know you can abuse grace.”

He balanced it.

I get it, Grace can feel like a scary thing, especially when you have labored under religion, especially when no one balances it. You see, I had been agreeing with him without reservation and it was too good, almost dangerously so. The ugly religion muscle spasm-ed. I could almost hear it screaming inside his head “you’ve gone too far!”

This grace thing was starting to sound too good to be true.

And so he balanced it.

It’s not his fault. It’s what he’s been taught by those who have a greater fear for the world we live in than revelation of the kingdom of heaven. It’s the natural response of those who have a greater focus on sin then the completed work of the cross and the power of His resurrection.

Those that teach us that we can abuse grace don’t fully know Grace. That teaching looks at Grace through the reality of need. This teaching dumbs Grace down to a commodity to be traded for freedom, or forgiveness, or favor.

“Those that teach us that we can abuse grace don’t fully know Grace.”

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When life’s needs become bigger than the perfection of His love when sin is more powerful than His resurrection, Grace has to be balanced and when Grace is balanced it becomes nothing more than a cheap parlor trick – empty rhetoric.

Balanced grace is a lie that enslaves us to live in the reality of our need instead of a revelation of Love. A balanced grace is simply another form of control. If Grace can be balanced, its power is neutered. And a powerless grace is a cruelty greater than no grace at all.

Grace won’t be balanced! He is too perfect, too whole, too free, too just, too pure, too kind, too strong, too wild, too holy…

Grace won’t be belittled, Grace can’t ever go bad or run out, He is the good news – always.

I would like to suggest that this journey we are on is about discovering unbalanced Grace…

After my friend’s outburst the car got quiet. For just a moment we teetered on the brink of a faith crisis. But Grace would have none of it. Right there on the verge of hopelessness, I told my friend the beautiful truth I am always growing in,  “You can’t abuse Grace and you can’t balance it!”

“Grace is unmerited favor. We can’t do anything to earn it and therefore it can’t be abused. Grace can’t ever go bad or run out, He is the good news – always.”

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I went on to tell him that Grace isn’t too good to be true, just the opposite, it’s too good not to be true. Grace is unmerited favor. We can’t do anything to earn it and therefore it can’t be abused. It’s a gift from our Father through Jesus. It’s one of the most beautiful expressions of His always-good love for us.

As I was sharing about Grace my heavenly Father spoke to my heart. In the middle of a sentence, I heard Him say “Jason, tell him how I see him.” It was a brilliant thing for my Father to say and I was overwhelmed by what it meant. I began to laugh. You see, Grace is available when we see ourselves through our Father’s eyes.

So I began to tell my friend how the Father saw him. I began to express to him how he was a son, a man after Gods own heart, an extension of the Kingdom of heaven. And as I shared the truth about how our Father saw him, Grace took over, and the dark clouds of religious oppression dispersed and my friend was empowered and transformed. Why? Because that’s what a pure and unbalanced Grace does.

“Grace reveals our true identity! When we can see ourselves from our Fathers perspective, we are empowered to become how He sees us.”

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Grace reveals our true identity! When we can see ourselves in Christ, from our Fathers perspective, we are empowered to become how He sees us. Grace is the gift given that we might live as saints of the Highest One. Grace transforms us until we are living in the wonder of our identity as His kids.

I pray you know His Grace today in new ways!

Jason Clark
is a writer, speaker and lead communicator at A Family Story ministries. His mission is to encourage sons and daughters to grow sure in the love of an always-good heavenly Father. He and his wife, Karen, live in North Carolina with their three children.


  1. A Better Way

    Oh man, yes, Jason; amen!! SO….GOOD! Pure, unmixed, UNBALANCED Grace. I love hearing from people that are on the pure Grace wavelength, Jason. What an astounding revelation; it definitely seems “too good to be true”, and that’s when I KNOW it’s actually God and His grace.

    “When something sounds too good to be true, it’s most likely either the lies of men… or the Truth of God.” -Holy Spirit

    I’ll for SURE be sharing this one on social media. Keep up the good “work” (believing) of the truly “too Good to be true” News, brother!!

    • Jason Clark

      Oh man, it’s the good news only getting better!

      Grace is nothing but good news, its nothing but the transforming empowering revelation of His love.

      Love ya man, grace over you today!!

  2. Lance

    Grace set me free from so much guilt and shame but then it was all heaped back on in a different form by well meaning preachers / pastors. “not reading the bible enough, not praying enough, not serving enough, stop sinning, not reaching the lost souls going to hell enough, not fervent enough,” etc. Over time, the guilt and constant condemnation and never ending repentance caused me to drift away from church and the bible. Don’t know where I stand today but I still struggle with all of the above.
    Thanks for your message and not adding any “buts” or balancing to grace.

    • Jason Clark

      Thanks for sharing and the encouragement! Praying Grace over you today, no “buts” just a greater revelation of Love and Life; just a greater awakening to an always-good God who is restoring all things.

      Bless ya, Lance.


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