There is No "Us" and "Them"






The early church, led by Peter, was beautiful. And that’s an understatement.

From the moment Holy Spirit burst onto the scene in the upper room in Acts 2 there was an evangelistic explosion. With “many wonders and signs” (Acts 2:43 & 5:12) folks were being added to the church daily, weekly, monthly.

This early church was stunningly marked by unity. The phrases “all together,” or “of one accord” can be found five times in the first five chapters of Acts.

The power of God, displayed by leadership, was remarkable. Even Peter’s shadow healed people (Acts 5).

There were young leaders being raised up as the good news spread from village to village, city to city. Most notably, Paul and Timothy through Barnabas, and later James, through Peter (Acts 12).

Miracles were happening at a rate the world had never seen before.

Yes, there was persecution, and the yet the church grew, and “throughout all Judaea and Galilee and Samaria (they) had peace” and richly increased in numbers” (Acts 9:31).

The presence of Holy Spirit was evidenced in every aspect of the church. From Pentecost on, Holy Spirit was present and known to fall “on all who heard the word” (Acts 10:44).

This was a beautiful church where sons and daughters were growing confident in the love of God as Father! This was a church passionately releasing heaven on earth; a church where righteousness, peace, and joy in Holy Spirit were being deeply rooted in the soul, in every aspect of life.

And this was a generous church where the lost were being found, the sick healed, the sinner forgiven and transformed, the lonely placed in family, and all who were thirsty could come and drink. All could be saved…

Except anyone who wasn’t Jewish. 

Just like today, the church’s understanding of the Good News was ever-expanding. But in those beautiful, formative early church days, the Good News was solely Jewish. 

So, when I write all could be saved, what I really mean is, in those first nine years or so, because of tradition, culture, and a limited understanding, only an exclusive group of people could be saved. Essentially, all of the included “us,” but none of the excluded “them,” could be saved.

It may be difficult, but try to imagine a church experiencing profound revelation, favor, life, joy, peace, and great union while at the same time living with a profoundly broken, limited perspective regarding the all-inclusive nature of their heavenly Father.

I know it’s hard, but try to imagine a church, shining with life-transforming good news, evangelizing as “the light of the world, a city set on a hill” to only a select few. (See Matt 5:14)

It’s nearly impossible, but try to imagine a church interpreting scripture to reveal Jesus as the Savior of the…  small group of people who look, act, and believe like ‘us.’

You may be picking up some playful sarcasm.

Why? Because it’s actually quite easy to imagine this church. You likely have participated in it. I certainly have.

That’s not a condemning statement, it is an invitation…

The early church and Her leadership were beautiful, but with a serious flaw on their “God lens”—the same flaw the church and Her leadership continue to stumble over and repent of today:

Us and Them

For and Against

In and Out

The early church knew the transformational revelation of Jesus’ great affection. And this church was led by a man who had experienced, mercy, grace, and the all-inclusive love of His friend, Jesus, in a way that few ever have.

And in every day that passed, Peter and the early church grew in the revelation of our Father’s always good, no distance, no separation love. And yet, even in the daily profound manifestation of God’s presence, for the first nine years or so, the early church seemed oblivious to their devastating (especially if you were a Gentile) ‘us and them’ flaw on their God lens.

God didn’t ignore their delusions, nor did He condemn them for their exclusivity. He just kept revealing Himself. He continued to meet them where they were, His presence profoundly known.

Throughout history, God always seems to believe that His love is more powerful than our flawed understanding. God seems to think our hearts will win out in the end.

And it is, and they do…

Along the way, the early church’s fallen ‘us and them’ thinking and their closed hearts began to change. Peter first. Then one day, when the soil was ready to bear good fruit; Peter is given a vision by God that is offensively good. A gospel so expansive as to include the whole world in the finished work of the cross. It even included bacon! (See Acts 10)

Offensively good!

And Peter was willing to be offended by the goodness of God. And that’s a big deal. The willingness to be offended by God’s goodness is the birthplace of revelation and transformation, and an absolute requirement for leaders.

Peter rises from that vision, and within hours, welcomes me and several billion more into the family. Within hours, the gospel included the whole world. Within hours, every tribe and tongue was a welcomed son or daughter. Within hours, the good news was even better than Peter or the church could think or imagine.

Many of us today, long to go back to the early church days, viewing those first few years as the high-water mark of what a church is meant to be. They weren’t. Not even close! As beautifully transformative as She was, the early church was even more beautifully transformative the day She repented and Cornelius and his family, and my family, and every family was included! And She continues to grow more beautiful each day because Her foundation is firmly laid upon the rock of an all-included finished work of the cross.

One of the reasons I love Peter’s leadership is because the man’s heart was ever-expanding, his mind ever open to rethinking. He was a man who knew how to repent.

Jesus said, “upon this rock” I will build the expansiveness of my church. Then Jesus gave the reins to a narrow-minded hot head. But a narrow-minded hot head who was continually open to being offended by the all-inclusive goodness of God. And as Peter matured in his faith and leadership he became way less narrow in his thinking…

I believe a good leader is continually discovering a gospel that is more inclusive than the last time he or she checked. A good leader is one who is daily repenting from ‘us and them,’ ‘for and against,’ ‘in and out’ thinking.

The love of God is all-inclusive and a good leader is a person who is ever learning not to divorce their heart from their head.

In my 46 years, I have often been surprised by how many leaders divorce their hearts for the sake of their understanding. I know it’s not just leaders, but I expect more humility from them.

I have sat in many rooms and watched love undermine every argument of separation, every case made for ‘us and them,’ only to witness leaders close their hearts and deny love for the sake of their dualistic understanding.

Peter, as a leader, was the gateway for changing the way the church thought regarding the inclusion of Cornelius and his family into the Family. If Peter had been too proud to repent when the goodness of God was revealed to him, he’d have actually stood against God and made a mess of things for those who followed him. So it’s a big deal!

Leadership, the kind Peter revealed, is evidenced by repenting from the exclusivity of ‘us and them’ thinking. Leadership, the kind Peter revealed, is evidenced in the willingness to rethink theologies, systems, methods, traditions, and institutions that undermine the all-inclusive other-centered love of our Father.

But I am encouraged! Lately, and more regularly, I speak with leaders, sons, and daughters, in all walks of life and leadership, who are willing to be offended by His love, then willing to repent, rethink and re-imagine.

I believe the church is on the cusp of another “Cornelius breakthrough”—a deeper understanding and agreement with the same revelation that Peter was stewarding in the early church; there is no ‘us and them’ in how our Father thinks, no ‘us and them’ in His Kingdom, no ‘us and them’ in our Family.

There is no Jew nor Gentile, slave nor free, male or female, no black or white, lost or found, sinner or saint, gay or straight, republican or democrat, capitalist or socialist, Christian or Muslim or Atheist… there is nothing that separates us from His all-inclusive love. “…For you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (See Gal 3:28)

There is no death He hasn’t defeated, no hell He hasn’t invaded, no delusion He hasn’t infiltrated, no darkness He hasn’t illuminated; there is nothing that separates us from the love revealed through His death and resurrection.

As Bono sings, “One love, one life…”

We are one, and we are growing in this ever-expanding revelation; one family discovering our Father’s great desire revealed through the prayer of His Son, Jesus.

“I pray that they will all be one, just as you and I are one—as you are in me, Father, and I am in you. And may they be in us so that the world will believe you sent me.” (John 17:21)

These are not early church days, these are 2020 church days! Isn’t that amazing!? You are the church! And you’re beautiful!

So go find your Cornelius today and reveal the desires of his or her heart: that they are loved and included!
Be the leader Peter was to your spouse, kids, family, neighborhood, shopping mall, and even your local church gathering.


“No other except the impulsive Simon could have been at once the embodiment of the Adversary (get behind me Satan) and the incarnation of the Rock on which the church should rest (Matt 16:16-23).” – Frank Grant Lewis, Peter’s Place in the Early Church, 1909

Jason Clark
is a writer, speaker and lead communicator at A Family Story ministries. His mission is to encourage sons and daughters to grow sure in the love of an always-good heavenly Father. He and his wife, Karen, live in North Carolina with their three children.


  1. Tineke Ziemer

    Very timely!

  2. Paula

    Great great stuff! There’s no us and them in all!! Just love the depths of the revelation of our God’s love, mercy and grace! Thanks for continuing to help challenge our thinking and clearing our lenses to better hear, see and know our always good and loving God!!

    • Jason Clark

      I am so thankful for this ever-expanding good news! It truly is finished and we daily get to discover what that means!

      Thanks for the encouragement, Paula!

      • Paula

        I have been pondering your words about the cross not being puniative in nature…
        I was wondering if you had more written about this? It definitely shakes years of indoctrination…but sparks curiosity and wonder within me…
        What about the punishment for our sins was upon him and by His wounds we are healed? (Is 53:5)
        Thanks for any further insight you can share…I have wrestled with this punishment based aspect of God’s character and how fear has to do with punishment not love…

        • Jason Clark

          Hey Paula,

          My book Prone To Love addresses this some. The first two attached articles are taken from that book. Then I attached one on “What God is Like” in which I respond to questions around hell. But it’s focused on God’s nature and why I do not believe He is punitive. The last link is to a message I gave that further explores the cross.

          I also would recommend the Rethinking God Podcast with Brad Jersak or Paul Young. Also, keep your eyes open for an upcoming Podcast interview with Danny Silk who wrote a book titled “Unpunishable” I recommend the book. Blessings!

          • Paula

            I have read Prone to Love and watched the podcasts…My heart totally grasps that God’s nature is love and goodness…not puniative…that fear has to do with punishment and perfect love casts out all fear, I guess what I am asking is if you’re saying that you believe that the cross wasn’t punishment for sin/death? If it was not, was it primarily as our debt paid in full, ransom paid for our redemption? So as the greatest expression of love rather punishment for sin?

          • Jason Clark

            Hey Paula,

            That’s such a good question!

            It’s been a busy couple of days but I knew this new podcast with Baxter Kruger was coming and that Baxter really answers this question well.

            Here is the link

            I also have started writing an answer to your question and likely I’ll post it here or even as an article in the days ahead. Lots of love!

  3. Jennifer

    I loved this and I believe we are all connected. I have spent most of my lifetime with a dualistic mentality and could never go back to that. Even the belief of “believers and nonbelievers” and “saved and unsaved“ doesn’t resonate with me anymore. We were all created differently and we have spent lifetimes using our differences as an excuse to divide us. What if the diversity god created in us was to keep us from lacking any good thing?
    With all that is going on in the world right now I sure wish we could grasp the understanding that we are all one and the kingdom of god is within each of us.

  4. Jason Clark

    “What if the diversity God created in us was to keep us from lacking any good thing?” LOVE THIS thought!

    • ruthie

      I stumbled across your site – I know I have to explore it, but haven’t yet – but my sense it – wow – what a find. The day I was led to your site (2 days ago) there was this amazing post on the home page about needs – in the context of relationship – how if we have a needs based view (which the world encourages re: relationship) it can go stale, get mechanical etc. That post on that day really really helped me in my relationship. I wanted to share it with someone, today I have looked everywhere for it – but I can’t find it – would it be possible to access it somehow? I really look forward to exploring this website further over the next few days


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